I'm continuing to celebrate the publishing anniversary of my first series, The Lust Diaries!
If you haven't read it the The Lust Diaries series, you might not know that kink is a prominent theme. It was my first foray into writing the lifestyle and while Yves and Elijah are messy and don’t get it write on the first try, they grow as a couple from book one to book three.
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If you need some steamy inspiration for your next BDSM romance scene, look no further than this list of 6 prompts to spark your creativity!
Maybe you're delving into the kinky world of Femdom.
Maybe you're in the mood for a gentle dominant, slowly leading their partner down a path of pleasure, or perhaps you want to explore the intensity of a pleasure dominant taking control.
These prompts tap into themes and emotions more than the others that I’ve shared, but no matter which prompt you choose, get ready for some seriously sexy writing!
1. An inexperienced submissive meets a dominant who sets boundaries that are both unexpected and appreciated.
As an inexperienced submissive, your character is nervous to meet their new dominant for the first time. They’ve read countless articles and done their research, but nothing could prepare them for what was to come. As soon as they sat down to talk, their dominant sets boundaries that were unexpected yet appreciated. Instead of simply stating their rules, they took the time to explain why rules were important and how boundaries would benefit both of them. They feel respected and valued, and it gave them the confidence to fully embrace their submission. The experience was eye-opening, and they know that they had found someone who truly understood and cared for their needs.
2. A powerful woman discovers the pleasure of submission when she starts to explore BDSM.
They’ve always been the one in charge, making decisions and commanding respect in their professional and personal life. But as they delve deeper into the world of BDSM, they find themselves willingly surrendering that power to a capable, dominant partner. It’s a revelation for them, discovering the sheer pleasure of submission, of letting go of control and allowing themselves to be taken on a journey of uninhibited pleasure and pain. With each experience, they are deeply intoxicated by the sensations of bondage, discipline, and submission. And as they explore the complexities and nuances of this world, they discover that their power can be even greater in submission, a force to be reckoned with in the hands of someone who knows how to control and release it. It was a new level of empowerment, a new dimension to their sexuality, and they’re eager to continue exploring it.
3. Two people, with very different BDSM experiences, find common ground through their mutual interest in kink.
These two characters are in the lifestyle but come from vastly different BDSM worlds, but they still find a way to connect through their shared love of kink. One is a seasoned submissive, has been in the game for years, and craves the control and release that their partner gives them. Meanwhile, the other character, a newbie to the scene, has only just discovered their dominant side. Despite their different backgrounds, the two find common ground in their mutual fascination. They explore new boundaries together, sharing pleasure, trust, and excitement. As they grew closer, The seasoned submissive teaches the novice dominant the ropes, guiding them through the vast and intricate world of kink. And in turn, David opened Alice's eyes to a new way of experiencing BDSM. Together, they found a beautiful balance that allowed them to fully explore their desires, without judgment or hesitancy.
4. A couple explores the psychological aspects of BDSM as well as the physical play.
This couple has always had a great relationship, but they feel like they need to spice things up. They decide to explore the world of BDSM together. As they dive into the deep end, they are surprised to find that BDSM isn't just about physical play, but also about the psychological aspects. The power dynamics, trust, and communication involved in BDSM add a new level of intimacy and understanding to their relationship. They find that physical play is only one part of the equation. Playing with dominance and submission allowed them to tap into deeper emotions and desires that they never even realized they had. The psychological connection they developed through BDSM not only brought them closer together but also helped them understand themselves and their relationship on a whole new level.
5. A Dom/sub relationship takes an unexpected turn when one partner discovers what turns them on most is taking charge.
In this Dom/sub relationship, their individual roles are clearly defined. The submissive partner knows their place - to obey and serve their dominant. But then, something unexpected happens. The dominant partner discovers that what really turns to have their submissive take charge. Suddenly, the dynamic of the relationship shifts. The dominant partner is no longer the one calling the shots, and the submissive partner can finally explore their newfound interest in dominating their partner. It's a complete 180 from where they started, but both partners are excited to see where this takes them. As they explore this new aspect of their relationship together, they both find a deeper connection and understanding of each other's desires. Who knows where this unexpected turn will lead them? But one thing is for sure, they're both willing to find out.
6. A submissive learns to trust their Dom by pushing their own boundaries slowly and safely
In BDSM, trust is paramount. For submissives, especially those new to the lifestyle, building trust with their Dominant can be a daunting task. However, a submissive can learn to trust their Dom by pushing their own boundaries slowly and safely. This process takes time and patience. A good Dom will listen to their submissive's fears and concerns, provide a safe space and clear boundaries, and help them gradually explore their limits. The more a submissive learns about themselves and their limits, the more they can communicate with their Dom, creating a deeper level of trust in the relationship. It's a beautiful dance of power exchange, where the submissive has the power to say no, but chooses to submit and trust their Dom, knowing that they will be taken care of in the end. Through this process, a submissive can grow, both mentally and emotionally, and learn to trust not only their Dom, but also themselves.
While it’s often portrayed in a scary and sometimes dangerous light, BDSM is an interesting relationship dynamic to introduce to your romance that can bring immense depth to your story when explored with an open mind and an understanding of the power dynamics at play. A kinky subplot can open the door to writing about two (or more!) people creating a consensual space for exploration, pleasure, and growth, no matter what type of relationship they have or what experience level they bring.
Remember, friends… 50 Shades of Grey wasn’t the first bdsm romance. There were others before it and have been some great ones since! And more importantly, there have been several books that handle kink more responsibly.
I hope you find this #WordmakerWednesday writing prompts inspiring. If you need a group of writing ass writers to help you brainstorm ways any of those prompts, join us in Wordmakers where Club level members have two scheduled write-ins: 11 am EST & 7 pm EST. We write using the Pomodoro method, and you’d be amazed at how much work you can get done!
Happy Writing!
xoxo, Tasha
